macOS: set the theme on the NSWindow, instead of application-wide

This new implementation uses:
- The NSAppearanceCustomization protocol for retrieving the appearance
  of the window, instead of using the application-wide
  `-[NSApplication effectiveAppearance]`.
- Key-Value observing for observing the `effectiveAppearance` to compute
  the `ThemeChanged` event, instead of using the undocumented
  `AppleInterfaceThemeChangedNotification` notification.

This also fixes `WindowBuilder::with_theme` not having any effect, and
the conversion between `Theme` and `NSAppearance` is made a bit more
robust.

src/event.rs

@@ -389,6 +389,8 @@ pub enum WindowEvent {
     /// Applications might wish to react to this to change the theme of the content of the window
     /// when the system changes the window theme.
     ///
+    /// This only reports a change if the window theme was not overridden by [`Window::set_theme`].
+    ///
     /// ## Platform-specific
     ///
     /// - **iOS / Android / X11 / Wayland / Orbital:** Unsupported.